Download The Good News About Bad Behavior Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever And What to Do About It Katherine Reynolds Lewis 9781541774063 Books

Product details Paperback 288 pages Publisher PublicAffairs; Reprint edition (April 9, 2019) Language English ISBN-10 154177406X

The Good News About Bad Behavior Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever And What to Do About It Katherine Reynolds Lewis 9781541774063 Books Reviews

• I was lucky to read a review copy of this book. I admit I was a little skeptical, "Not Another Parenting book!!!!!" This book hit home with me instantly. Many of the stories about children in this book could have been taken out of my family's life. She lays out with researched-backed proof that kids really are growing up quite differently. Therefore, the old parenting model of "Because I said so!!!!" doesn't work anymore. Not to worry, the solutions presented aren't very difficult to understand. All it will take is a few little changes and a couple ounces of trust (in yourself and your kids).
• As a parent, I spent a lot of time thinking about how to get my children to DO what I thought would be best for them. It wasn’t until I read this book that I realized I should be thinking about how to get them to BE what’s best for them. That’s the only kind of parenting that will succeed when parents aren’t around. This book tells you how to help your children develop the competencies that allow them to be their best selves—even when no one’s watching.
• This is a fantastic book filled with relatable anecdotes and practical advice. I will be recommending it to many others as I think there's something in here for every family. Lewis seems to really understand why kids have so many behavior problems today and presents solutions that get to the root of the problem rather than treat the symptoms. I've found it to be immensely helpful in the way I relate to children and honestly, even other adults. Lewis is at the forefront of what I hope will become a massive rethinking of how we raise children, and I can't recommend her book enough.
• There were a lot of stories in this book, but it seemed to wander. It was hard to follow which parenting technique was which. I wish there had been some summaries at end of chapters or the end of the book. Maybe I expected too much, but I don’t think there was enough material for a book here.
• You know, I had to take many classes to learn how to be in my profession but no one has to take a class to be a parent. And as much as I have hunted for a “how - to” manual since bringing my first child home from the hospital, I still haven’t found one. And as my children get older, this parenting gig gets harder.
  
  I’ve heard so much conflicting information over the years and it is becoming more difficult to parse through the data. I appreciate the author’s focus on research in the first portion of the book and her presentation of the material was easy to digest. I can see how each of the proposed methods are rooted in the research presented.
  
  I also appreciate the author’s practical perspective. Too often we parents hear the lament “oh, kids just don’t play outside like they used to.” Yes, that is true. For whatever the reasons, this kind of play simply is more limited than it used to be and there’s no going back. And rather than spending time focused on the doom and gloom for the upcoming generation - this book focuses on the “ok, now what?”
  
  I would recommend this book to modern parents, especially if you have a rambunctious, energetic child that doesn’t seem to respond to typical parenting responses like time outs. I would also recommend this to the other anxious parents out there who are scared they are screwing up their kids. There’s a lot of good stuff here, and like the title suggests, it’s not all bad news.
• Many parenting books tell you what to do. "The Good News About Bad Behavior" tells you why to do it and how, as well. Katherine Reynolds Lewis explains that it's not our imagination, kids are really worse behaved than ever. But we don't have to punish kids or set up elaborate reward systems -- we can win them over with positive and encouraging strategies. There is so much advice in this book that I can apply to the way I interact with my own four children, starting today. I especially loved the way it was written in a compelling way with lots of storytelling and real-life examples. I only wish Kakki had written this book years ago. Destined to be a go-to parenting classic, like Po Bronson's "NurtureShock" (another book I highly recommend.) Five stars for sure.
• I suspected that bullying and bribery might not be the best way to raise a child, but it is satisfying to see that science is pointing to a better way. With graceful clarity, Katherine Reynolds Lewis lays out an approach that recognizes that today's kids are different and live in a different world. The author is candid, flexible, open-hearted, and forceful in arguing that it is vital for children to know that they are liked and respected, that the early years are a process which parents need to understand and help. This is an important book that is a pleasure to read.
• I'm a teacher and I've been reading more parent books to add techniques to my own classroom management and occasionally give recommendations for parents.
  
  This book was good because it does touch on a lot of the Adler tenents that so many of my colleagues and I have been trained on or read about though such books as "Positive Discipline" and it could serve as a great introduction to those who have not read them. It even includes some ideas at the end that could be beneficial for implementation.
  
  However, it was a bit a slog to get through. It's probably mostly me but some of the anecdotes were just long and fell into the trap of "Eveerything worked out for the best!" I know this is the point of books like these but it doesn't change the fact that I personally didn't think much of them. Maybe you'll arrive at a different opinon.
  
  Personally, I would just skip this and go to "Postivie Dicipline" by Jane Nelson if I could do it all over again but maybe lots of anecdotes are your thing. If so, this book is a good choice for you.